For those who are unconsciously dominated by fear…

Do you ever find yourself saying, “I don’t care, I’ll do whatever..” when asked what you want to do, where you want to go, or what you want to eat for dinner?

You don’t want to be a bother or a pain, so you just find it easier to go along with whatever happens. So much in fact, your friends saved you in their phone as “go with the flow friend”

So Sally, when you just go with the flow, how does it feel inside your body?

Do you feel compressed, like you can’t escape, like you have no excitement or control or joy over your life, or where you want to eat?

Well, of course, you aren’t going to. You’re compromising. You’re compromising your happiness, your joy, and your waistline to make other people happy.

And the shitty thing about compromising is that it happens very subtly in the beginning, and by beginning, I mean your childhood. I know, stay with me here.

Think about it…Little Sally grew up with an alcoholic father who beat the shit out of her mom, and her whenever she voiced an opinion so to keep herself safe she learned to just “go with the flow” and keep her opinions to herself so she could eat her dinner in peace without getting yelled at or a dish thrown at her head. 

Then that “go with the flow”  “I don’t want to be a bother” became an unconscious program embedded in her head that started working in the background before she even realizes 20 years later her go to answer to “Where do you want to eat for dinner?” is “I don’t care, I’ll do whatever” knowing damn well she hates going to the same Indian Food restaurant that her friends love and would rather have a fat juicy steak at the fancy steakhouse that her friends are too cheap to go to.

So how can you start saying no to Indian food and get your steak dinner? By believing in yourself again. By rewriting that subconscious program you’ve had running in your mind for 25 years. Slowly start asking yourself what you want and then, ya know…do it.

You have the power to change your beliefs. You have the power to look fear in the fucking eye and say NO MORE. The first step is awareness and the second step is consistent action.

So go out there and get your life force back, get your joy back, get your happiness back, and start a new unconscious belief for your next 25 years.